Style
Nine
Description
–
Serene and centered,
well-developed Nines bring cooperation to any relationship or
group. They're highly capable of dealing with others' problems
and building consensus, have a natural tendency to honor
diversity, and can get along with almost anyone. Unexamined
Nines tend to merge with others' preferences, however, and to
forget their own. Taking a strong position is particularly
difficult, because they see all sides of an issue and because
they're essentially non-aggressive. Their driving force is indolence
–
not laziness in the usual sense
(they're very hard workers) but out of touch with their own
wishes, self-forgetting. Though quiet, when Nines get started
they may tell epic tales (they hold so many alternative views
it's hard for them to focus).
Typical Comments
–
"I'm pretty easy-going.
My career just
kind of fell together, and in a very nice way." "I have CRS disease--Can't Remember Shit!"
"I try to pick the right moment to speak
up in a meeting." "I didn't cause much trouble for my
parents."
First-Order Change
–
Learning to speak up/confront
others, recognizing passive-aggressive behavior/becoming more
assertive, setting priorities/sticking to them, initiating
change.
Key Development
Need
–
Active engagement, the
willingness to stay focused on their own purpose
–
without
distraction. Consequently Nines learn to embrace the conflict
that is a necessary part of human interaction.
Poems That Speak
to Nines
Plain Vanilla
Opening Up
An Epic Tale
Coming Home: Nines and
Ones in Relationship
Quick Views of Nine Personality
Patterns
Leadership and the Enneagram
Much more in Out of the Box Coaching
Book
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