Style
Three
Description
–
People with Enneagram Style
Three are often expansive go-getters.
In organizations, they ensure high productivity. Formidable models for others, they're
typically efficient and supremely goal-oriented; consequently, they tend to rise to
the top in organizations, or to run their own companies.
What under-developed Threes personify for
all
of us is our image-making. They tend to self-promote, and can be
perceived as showcasing themselves at the expense of others. When
they look
outward for their reflection in the eyes of others, their inner life can
be lacking. This driving force is vanity, which shows up as
self-deception (e.g.,
convincing oneself a failure to involve the team in a major business coup was not
important because of the results achieved).
Typical Comments
–
"I like seeing success breed upon
success." "I've always been successful."
"I have a shelf full of empty trophies."
"I got pats on the back for doing well
in school, and my parents made it clear what would be approved of."
First-Order Change
–
Learning to
collaborate instead of compete, clarifying their own values/developing internal criteria
(vs. external validation), learning from failure, and accessing feelings.
Key Development Need
–
Authenticity, speaking
from the essential self and not through personality needs.
Poems That Speak to
Threes
