Style One
Description
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A self-observing One can be wise, tolerant, balanced, and focused on
standards of excellence in ways that provide an exemplary vision for others. In
business organizations, Ones are often the purveyors of quality. When less well-developed, people of this personality style show their
perfectionism.
They carry an internal judging voice, which chastises themselves (or others) for falling
short of perfection (preaching) or, in a very healthy individual, invokes higher
attainment (teaching). Their driving force is anger, which is typically
over-controlled until it erupts as resentment when someone has failed to
live up to their expectations. They're prone to moral tirades, yet they also show a
"running amok" side that allows them to escape their own high standards.
Typical Comments
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"I know I'm right, why should I have to compromise?"
"I'm my own worst critic."
"My whole career, I've been brought in to fix
things." "My message as a kid was always, 'You can do
better.'"
First-Order Change
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De-potentiating their critical
voice, allowing themselves to be wrong (see video below), techniques for channeling anger more effectively, learning to respond to criticism
non-defensively, and moving away from black-and-white thinking with positive reframing and
creative problem-solving.
Key Development Need
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Patience,
the willingness to accept conditions that do not conform to one's ideal.
Forgive
Yourself...
'Transformation'
is a Bit Pretentious
Everything Has Sanctity
Poems That Speak
to Ones
Quick Views of Nine Personality
Patterns
Leadership and the Enneagram
Much more in Out of the Box Coaching
Book
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