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Forgiveness Is the Miracle

In Love is Letting Go of Fear, Dr. Gerald G. Jampolsky applies the principles of A Course in Miracles to what he describes as "lessons for personal transformation." He suggests a daily practice of relaxation, active imagination, application, and review of each lesson, repeating the program until the lessons are part of your life.

These are powerful practices that can eliminate wasting energy on fears, judgments, and grievances, freeing us to live in the present with joy, openness, and wholeness. When we hold onto grievances we tend to use the past to predict a future in which we must be cautious and avoid being hurt. In contrast, giving love to others unconditionally will bring us the love we all need.

Forgiveness in this light does not mean we tolerate behavior we don't like; it means correcting a misperception that we've been harmed; it means noticing thoughts that create a fearful external world, choosing instead to see love in the world and to appreciate our common bond with others.

"The world we see that seems so insane may be the result of a belief system that isn't working," Jampolsky writes. "Our old belief system assumes anger occurs because we have been attacked. It also assumes that counterattack is justified... If we are willing, it is possible to change our belief system. However, to do so... means letting go of any investment in holding on to fear, anger, guilt or pain."