Out of the Box Coaching and
Breakthroughs with the Enneagram, Mary R. Bast, Ph.D. 
Copyright 1999. All rights reserved. Revised: September 12, 2014
  

   

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Break Out of the Box

It's only a matter of moments before our time on earth is over. Ask "What is my Work?" Pay attention fiercely, compassionately, and playfully to the deeper patterns of your life. Benefit from my 30 years of coaching experience:    

Circle of Concern - Circle of Influence

Of all the good suggestions in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, "Habit 1: Be Proactive" is particularly useful when you feel powerless against life's forces. Covey recommends examining what you can do instead of focusing on worries over which you have no control. First notice all your concerns. Then, among those concerns, determine where you can take action:

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Think of ways to be more proactive and address the things you can do something about. Your circle of influence will enlarge and your circle of concern will shrink:

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Covey distinguishes between the have's ("If only I had...") and the be's ("I can be..."). Focusing on what you don't like is disempowering. Focusing on what you can do is proactive and empowering. "Be part of the solution," Covey suggests, "not part of the problem."